the curse\u00a0of Autopilot Parenting and the destructive effects<\/a> it has on our relationship with our kids. It creeps in. Takes hold. And destroys relationships. It’s not something you think about until its too late which is precisely why you should thank us for making you think about now.\u00a0<\/u><\/u><\/p>\nToday we will talk about step one in the cure to the curse of Autopilot Parenting: Acknowledgment.<\/b><\/u><\/u><\/p>\n
The first thing you need to do if you want to cure your Autopilot Parenting is simply admit it and face it head on. Listen up! Being the dad on purpose, as opposed to being the dad on autopilot, is how we take back the controls and change course. So, are\u00a0you ready to acknowledge where\u00a0you’ve slipped\u00a0and say you are sorry to your children?\u00a0Yes – you read that correctly. You are going to need to tell your kids – \u00a0sorry –\u00a0and you are going to be so glad you did.<\/em>\u00a0I promise<\/b>. Here’s why.<\/u><\/u><\/p>\nAsk forgiveness<\/h3>\n
There is something special that happens in the heart of a child when a parent shows the humility to admit fault and ask for forgiveness. First of all, taking account of your own weakness is a deep expression of your strength and self-awareness. You show you are a\u00a0trustworthy leader when you are willing to take ownership of your own choices. This makes your kids feel more free and secure around you. But it gets better than that!<\/u><\/u><\/p>\n
When you take ownership for being on autopilot, not only are you leading by example\u00a0and showing them how to handle mistakes, you inspire connection\u00a0and respect from the very kid(s) that may have been disconnected and lacking respect for you. Autopilot Parents don’t realize they’ve been communicating to their kids that everything\u00a0else in the world is more important than your relationship with them –\u00a0even while you are actively managing the kid\u2019 schedules and\u00a0necessities.<\/em>\u00a0That’s why saying you are sorry, face to face, eye to eye, is one of the surest ways\u00a0of expressing just how much you truly do value and care about them. This apology opens\u00a0the way for them to\u00a0feel how truly important they are to you. And this not only helps you reconnect, it empowers and builds confidence in your child at a deep, formative level. They are reminded of just how much they do matter to you and this means they\u00a0are\u00a0<\/em>worthy of love and respect. This has a profound impact on the character of your\u00a0little people who will one day be big people facing this crazy world.<\/u><\/u><\/p>\nWay to go dad! Isn’t it ironic how much positive can come from something that was originally seen as negative?\u00a0Now, at first, some kids will be rather shocked and not know how to take you being so human and honest. I remember when I first apologized to my kids (aged 4 and 6ish). The reaction from my oldest, Malachi, was sort of like –\u00a0“You aren’t perfect and your willing to admit it… and that’s okay? Huh!?”<\/em>\u00a0The momentary confusion was soon overtaken by tears. I asked Malachi, “What is it son? Why are you crying?”. He responded with the best three words I could have ever heard. “I’m so happy.” My son is a particularly emotional person but there is no doubt that taking this step is a huge deal for your kids, whoever they are, and will likely result in visible changes in their attitude and behavior towards you in very positive ways. Here’s how its done.<\/u><\/u><\/p>\nNo distractions<\/h3>\n
Tell the kid(s) you need to talk to them. Have them sit in front of you. Turn off all distractions. TV, Computer, Music… everything is off, no distractions.<\/u><\/u><\/p>\n
“Jeremiah\/Lily\/kids – [address each one by name]… I owe you an apology. I’ve been thinking about how I want to be the best dad I can be for you and I realized that I’ve been so busy and distracted with everything. I’m sorry for not taking more time to be with just you. It\u2019s really important to me that we have that time together. I want you to know how much I love you. Will you forgive me? (Wait for an answer) Thank you! [big hugs]\u00a0I’m looking forward to us having more time together. How’s that sound to you?” And make sure you follow through!!<\/u><\/u><\/p>\n
Now that you understand the first part of the cure for the curse of Autopilot Parenting,\u00a0next week we’ll reveal\u00a0the\u00a0simple, most important thing you can do to transform the heart of your child and build an authentic connection that will last a lifetime. Stay tuned, and as always,\u00a0if this content means something to you, share it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Acknowledgement This is part 2 of the curse of autopilot parenting. Now that we understand the disastrous effects of being the dad on autopilot, it’s time to discuss what we can do about it. Discover the power of acknowledgement and how directly addressing this issue with your kids can ignite and renew your connection with […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4435,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[60],"tags":[91,97],"class_list":["post-424","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abiding","tag-btd","tag-podcast"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/424","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=424"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/424\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4435"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=424"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=424"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=424"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}