I’ll never forget the experience I had getting ready for my freshman year of NCAA Football. I had the opportunity to spend three months training with my cousin, Tom Boskey, one of the toughest linebackers in Iowa State history.<\/p>\n
When I arrived in Sioux Falls, SD to train with Tom and his wife Shellie, I was roughly 210 lbs. By the end of the summer in 1988, I was around 240 lbs. running a 4.65 second 40-yrd. dash. My daily schedule was: intense weight training, running sprints and 12-minute runs, eating a high-protein diet, and sleeping at least 10 hours a day. To this day, my mom thinks I took steroids. Thanks, mom.<\/p>\n
Now, as a father of two young men, looking back, two lessons can be gleaned from this experience.<\/p>\n
1). My parents were not equipped to prepare me for the path in which I was headed. Sometimes you need to find resources outside of yourself to help prepare your child.<\/strong>\u00a0This is not an excuse to neglect your duties as a father, but there may be opportunities to call on a cousin or uncle or a trusted neighbor who can help in areas in which you are deficient. Tom and Shellie poured themselves into me for nearly 3 months. For that I’m very thankful.<\/p>\n 2). You can help train the child for the path even if it’s not your child. Biology isn’t everything. Who do you know who doesn’t have an engaged father?<\/strong> Can you be a father or a mentor to them? Or, do you know a father who might be struggling and could use some help engaging their children?<\/p>\n Even with the proper training, the child might veer from the path.<\/p>\n Stay tuned to the disaster that ensued after training with a pro.<\/strong><\/p>\n P.S. I didn’t take steroids.<\/p>\n John (a student of fatherhood)<\/p>\n Subscribe<\/a> to our email list<\/a> if you haven’t already.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Training I’ll never forget the experience I had getting ready for my freshman year of NCAA Football. I had the opportunity to spend three months training with my cousin, Tom Boskey, one of the toughest linebackers in Iowa State history. When I arrived in Sioux Falls, SD to train with Tom and his wife Shellie, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1257,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[85,67,119],"tags":[91,82],"class_list":["post-405362","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-disciplining","category-role","category-teaching","tag-btd","tag-parenting"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/405362","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=405362"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/405362\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1257"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=405362"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=405362"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=405362"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}