{"id":265,"date":"2015-04-22T01:22:02","date_gmt":"2015-04-22T01:22:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/abidingfathers.org\/?p=265"},"modified":"2015-04-22T01:22:02","modified_gmt":"2015-04-22T01:22:02","slug":"a-d-d-attention-dad-deficit-no-deposit-no-return","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/2015\/04\/22\/a-d-d-attention-dad-deficit-no-deposit-no-return\/","title":{"rendered":"A.D.D. Attention Dad Deficit (No Deposit, No Return)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Time<\/h3>\n

NOTE: Attention deficit disorder is a legitimate term. However, after observing and working with children for twenty years (and having a child of my own labeled with ADD) I learned and experienced ways to overcome and conquer it on behalf of my son and other children.<\/em><\/p>\n

First,<\/strong> I examined myself. After doing so I defined ADD according to my own understanding, experience and insight.<\/p>\n

Therefore, I called it Attention Dad Deficit. I was the deficit. I demanded optimum performance in school, sports and church but I was making minimal deposits.<\/em><\/p>\n

Second,<\/strong> I sought counselors and doctors. The Holy Spirit would not allow me to accept the doctors\u2019 and teachers\u2019 diagnosis, prognosis and suggestions.<\/p>\n

During this time I was preaching through a series on Overcoming Life\u2019s Issues<\/span>. The sermon that week was: Overcoming Anxiety: Don\u2019t worry, be Happy.<\/span> Philippians 4:6-9.<\/p>\n

Third<\/strong>, I accepted my role in what was going on in my son\u2019s life and applied Philippians 4:6-9. Verse 9 really convicted me.<\/p>\n

After further examination, the Holy Spirit revealed to me that perpetually dysfunctional families and paternal absence (physically and emotionally) cause children to become collateral damage.<\/em>1Peter 3:7, Ephesians 5:25. \u201cDaddy marry mommy\u201d<\/em> was my son\u2019s continual request at age 4. He could see what was missing.<\/p>\n

I enhanced my prayer life, reduced my workload and began spending more time with my son. \u201cThank you for this time we have to spend together as father and son\u201d <\/em>was my son\u2019s prayer each time we sat down to eat together. Love is a four-letter word that may be interchangeably spelled, TIME.<\/em><\/p>\n

Eight R’s<\/h3>\n

By making the deposits below, I saw dramatic improvement. These are my eight \u2018Rs\u2019!<\/em><\/p>\n

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  1. Relationship: <\/strong>I strengthened my relationship with my son and Jesus. Nothing reaches deeper into the human personality than relationships.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    1. Rigor: <\/strong>The first lessons I taught and modeled to my son were\u2026 Life is hard. Life is not fair. We don\u2019t quit.<\/em><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

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      1. Routine: <\/strong>Children expect and need consistency. We spent an inordinate amount of time on homework and projects.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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        1. Repetition: <\/strong>Repetition is the key to learning. It enables children to receive, retain and recall information.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

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          1. Reinforcement: <\/strong>I wisely chose teachers, coaches, mentors and individuals who reinforced my philosophy.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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            1. Reward: <\/strong>I viewed him as a reward from the Lord.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong><\/p>\n

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              1. Review: <\/strong>I am constantly reviewing and revising my training regimen and relationship with him.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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                1. ROI: Training children is the best Return on Investment Capital ever!<\/em><\/strong> That is, if we see our time\/love as capital.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  The deposits above flow from the passages below.<\/em><\/p>\n

                  Children\u2019s paths must be narrowed or widened according to how God has wired, gifted and\/or is calling them. Proverbs 22:6.<\/em><\/p>\n

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                  1. Children are rewards inherited from God. Psalm 127:3<\/strong><\/li>\n
                  2. Children must be trained with precision. Psalm 127:<\/strong><\/li>\n
                  3. Children must be trained with purpose. Psalm 127:5b <\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    (The more the merrier) Psalm 127:5a<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

                    Time NOTE: Attention deficit disorder is a legitimate term. However, after observing and working with children for twenty years (and having a child of my own labeled with ADD) I learned and experienced ways to overcome and conquer it on behalf of my son and other children. First, I examined myself. After doing so I […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":550,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[67],"tags":[82],"class_list":["post-265","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-role","tag-parenting"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/265","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=265"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/265\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/550"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=265"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=265"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/af2.musiimes.space\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=265"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}